Enlightenment at Devin

I decided to take another adventure to Devin.  I must admit that I am a bit fascinated with this sim and just cannot resist visiting occasionally.  You can see my previous posts, “Devin”  & “Return to Devin”, by clicking on their names.

Having been there a couple of times already, I figured that I would just wander around and take it in.  There would be nothing that I had not seen before and I would just enjoy it for what it was.  Then, out of nowhere, came the idea of switching my Windlight setting to something I had not used before.  How would it look to me if I changed the way I looked at it?

As I stood there looking at the different photographic opportunities that presented themselves I got to thinking further. What if I applied the same approach to the way I view situations and other items in my life?  I wondered how much of my perception of some of my experiences and acquaintances in life were influenced by the energy (or metaphorically, Windlight) that existed at the time?  Could it be that, during the time I experienced any given situation, other events or emotions had a greater effect on me than I realized?  I have always operated with the understanding that emails and text messages are often read with the tone of our current mood.  If a person is happy, a curt message may come across without the sarcasm or anger that was originally intended.  Likewise, if a person is unhappy or stressed it is very likely that a benign comment or statement may seem like an attack.

It would be so nice if I had a drop-down list that I could use to change my view of any given situation as it were happening.  Not happy with the way it is going, change my viewpoint or mood and see how it looks now.  Sadly, it is not that easy though.  In Second Life, we can do it while looking at our focal point and nothing changes except the Windlight we are using to shoot the picture with.  In real life, things keep moving.  In a virtual world we have tools that can freeze time.  That is until we introduce others to the environment, then it gets complicated.  Often times, before the interactive play comes into play, we would be best to have our desired Windlight selected prior to the scene.  Moods and feelings are not as easy to set however.  We try and do the best with what we have but yet, sometimes, it does not turn out well.

My visit to the sim did turn out well.  I got the shots I wanted and was pleased with them and I will return to try something new next time.  I do not know how it will turn out but I am grateful to have the opportunity to try again, to find my perception of perfection.  Would any of us really want to pass up that chance if we had it?  I do not think I would and, for that reason, I will will keep trying new approaches and new Windlights until I achieve what I consider my best experience.

I do hope you enjoy these pictures.  It is another series of shots from an incredible sim seen in a different light.  Some may like them, some may not, but it was the one that I found myself in during this visit.  As always, the SLURL is located at the bottom of this post and thank you for taking the time to view it.

Visit this locating in Second Life by clicking here: Devin

Asian Fusion

My friend, Sera Bellic, has been at it again and this is her latest creation.  She writes in the land description, “‘Asian Fusion’ Country in the Orient. a picturesque sim with a collection of different Asian cultures. A touch of old and new merged together on one sim. Explore, take pictures or just hang out.”

This sim was picturesque and enjoyable to explore.  I found it entertaining and interesting and recommend it to anyone looking for an unique adventure.  Be sure and check it out.

As I wandered through the sim, enjoying the landscaping and the accompanying wildlife, I stumbled across the Panda bears.  Having spent a portion of my younger years becoming acquainted with different philosophers, I found myself thinking of a particular quote that applies nicely to my life as of late.  Attributed to Lao Tzu, an ancient Chinese philosopher, this quote was, “Care about people’s approval and you will be their prisoner.”

I have spent a lot of the past year making many missteps and a lot of those missteps were the result of different emotions and needs at the time.  To make matters worse, my worry about other’s perception (or approval) drove some of my decisions both right and wrong.  This latter concern has been something that has plagued me the majority of my adult life.  I do not know where this need to attempt to please others came from but realize that it does not always lead to the most desirable outcomes.

I have actually spent a lot of time over the years thinking about it and have come up with several reasons why this should not be a dictating practice in my life. Identifying the reasons is one thing but changing the behavior is something else completely different.   It is something I know I need to work on so here are a few that I have identified to support the theory.

1,  Lack of control of what other’s think of me.  Everyone I encounter has had different life experiences that have influenced how they see the world.  My beliefs and actions may or may not fit into what they consider acceptable or reasonable. Accepting that and knowing that I may not be able to change their belief system or influence their perception towards what I may consider acceptable is the first step in freeing myself from trying to be something that I am not in order to please them.  With some people, I can do everything that I believe is right for the situation but they will not see it that way based upon their life outlook. Acknowledging that I cannot control their interpretation of me is the first step in accepting the situation as it exists.

2.  Seeking other’s approvals takes a lot of time and energy.  Thinking about, often referred to as worrying, takes up time that I could use to do something that brings me joy and happiness.  Additionally, the energy that is wasted talking and dwelling upon what others may think of me could be better used for those other activities.

3.  Not everyone is going to like me.  I think about people’s preference when it comes to activities.  Not everyone enjoys to fish or play football or quilt or sew. Does this diminish the quality of those activities if I prefer to do them (and quilt and sew are not actually activities I partake in, much less enjoy) or is it that they just do not enjoy them?  Using that logic, it is safe then to assume that not everyone is going to like me, right?  Accept it and move on, it is much easier when I can look at it as a personal preference.  I may not be some people’s favorite activity and that is okay.

4.  I really can have a full life without other’s approval.  If I had never met the person, would their approval matter?  No, and just because I do know them and they may or may not approve of me does that mean that I am wrong?  No, it just means that their perception of the situation does not allow them to accept me as I am at that time.  They may or may not have all the information or they just may not like me for one reason or another.  Does that mean I have to change?  Not at all, I can still lead a full life whether they approve of me or not.

5.  I am responsible for my own happiness.  At the end of the day, I am solely responsible for the quality of my life, not them.  I, alone, will have to deal with the consequences of my life choices regardless of their opinions of me.  If it is a choice that betters my life (and is not illegal) then that is my choice to make.  It may not be the right choice in everyone’s eyes but, in the end, my happiness is my responsibility, not theirs.

Many will probably read this and not approve of my outlook or thoughts on the subject and that is okay.  There will be some that will agree with and approve of the thoughts and that is okay too.  By letting go of the self-applied restraints of worrying about what others think, I can achieve true freedom.  Freedom to be the best me that I can be for me.  This is not a license to be cruel and insensitive (though sometimes it may be perceived by some as that) but rather methods to allow me to live my best possible life.  I accept that there will be differing opinions and I also acknowledge other’s rights to have them.

Back to the matter at hand.  Sera is probably wondering what I think of her sim.  I also hope that she will also acknowledge that my opinion, or approval or disapproval of her sim does not enhance or diminish what she believes she has accomplished with the build.  I hope that what she has created her pleases her and that happiness is more than enough to carry her beyond what other’s, including myself, may say about it.  That being said, I will simply state, “I love it!”.  She is a very talented person who consistently puts her creative vision out there and opens it up for the rest of us to enjoy.  Each of the builds she creates stand on their own merits and I have always approved of each of them.  And I honestly hope that she does not care either way about what I think and does it strictly for her own inner satisfaction 🙂  But, yeah, it is great 🙂

Here are the pictures.  I hope you enjoy them and the SLURL is at the bottom of the post so you can visit this build in-world.

To visit this location in Second Life, click here:  Asian Fusion

Noelia Island

Paid a visit to this sim today and thoroughly enjoyed it.  The land description for it reads, “Romantic Italian, Mediterranean island. Couple dance, date, romance or cuddle in the romantic spots, take boat rides, relax on the beach, take photos or meditate near the Buddha. ”

It is a lovely sim with plenty of amenities for a romantic evening out.  With a beautiful villa on the hill and some very lovely scenery, it is really hard to go wrong with a visit to this one.

I managed to grab quite a few very nice pictures while here and recommend it to anyone who is looking for a lovely sim to explore and enjoy.  I hope you enjoy the pictures and you will find the SLURL located at the bottom of the post.

To visit this location in Second Life, please click here:  Noelia Island

Maison de L’amitie

These shots are from the “Maison de L’amitie” build located on the “Orchid” sim.  I found this visit to be delightful and was especially impressed with how the water areas were designed.  As everyone is well aware by now, I am drawn to builds that have coastal feels to them and this was no exception.  A beautiful sim will worth the time to explore.  I hope you get a chance to head by there and take a look around, snap a few pictures, and perhaps meet a friend or two.

While I wandered around taking pictures, I continued my thinking about ‘finding myself’ in Second Life.  Today’s thoughts concerned coming into Second Life for the first time in 2006.  As I approach my 11th rez-day I cannot help but think of all that has changed.  Some for the better and some, well, just for the sake of change.

I remember Welcome Island (not sure if that was what it was actually called then) and how much it felt like boot camp to me.  It had an obstacle course approach feel to it that was designed to teach me the basic navigational skills I would need to get around within this new world I was entering.  It took me three days to get through this as I really did not want to learn a lot of new tricks.  I wanted to get right into the experience and enjoy it.

I finally graduated and made my way into the world.  I do not remember exactly what I did after that (as I have slept many times since then) but I do recall the Linden land giveaway.  As a new user, I was entitled to 512 square meters of land on the mainland.  I remember going to the location they had released to claim my land and was shocked at how many others were there doing the same thing.  I remember claiming my spot in this new world and immediately being offered L$5000 for my land.  I did not take it as I thought I needed this for some reason.  I did sell it a few months later for L$7000 to someone who was consolidating parcels.  Compared to land prices today, that was a great deal.

But back to the matter at hand.  I do hope you enjoy these pictures and have an opportunity to visit this beautiful sim.  I have included the SLURL at the bottom of the post to help getting there easier.

Visit this location in Second Life by clicking here:  Maison de L’amitie